Hiding in plain sight

No, this isn't about the keys on the table or the glasses on the top of my head. I'm talking about people who are hiding in plain sight. How many times do we "see" someone differently than they are?

Earlier this week, I had a conversation with a man I used to work with. A mutual friend suggested I speak with him about my next career move and put us in contact. I didn't know him well when we worked together. He had a reputation for being someone who didn't cut anybody any slack.

He was immediately open to our conversation. He was gracious with advice, with suggestions, and asked that I keep him informed about my search. It was obvious from our conversation that he cared.

So I finally met a very kind, gracious, nice man who was hiding in plain sight. And I wonder--how many nice people are hiding in plain sight?

I know that I do. I have a reputation of being difficult and demanding, as well. It seems people either "get me" or they don't. If they do, I like to believe they find a devoted, loyal, and genuine friend who goes out of my way for them. If they don't, they find someone who expects people to do what they say they will do and who holds them accountable for their actions.

Hiding in plain sight. How can I resolve these two seemingly disparate sides? I think the secret is that you have to give a little, even if it isn't comfortable. Step out of where you are and welcome people in. You both gain from the experience.